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Albert
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 Posted: Sat Feb 08, 2025 7:20 am Post subject: How should non-white parents handle criminal cases? |
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| How should a non-white parent(s) deal with a offspring who is has developed a tendency of stealing items/things in the home and/or other places, without them resorting to physical torture/beating, after all attempts of talking to the young one is proving to be futile? |
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Edward Williams
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| Posted: Wed Feb 19, 2025 10:04 am Post subject: Re: How should non-white parents handle criminal cases? |
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| Albert wrote: |
| How should a non-white parent(s) deal with a offspring who is has developed a tendency of stealing items/things in the home and/or other places, without them resorting to physical torture/beating, after all attempts of talking to the young one is proving to be futile? |
Sometimes you have to allow people to fail, offspring or otherwise.
An older black male once told me a story where this father was talking to his son. The father asked him if he wanted him to advise and tell him what to do or not to do in order to avoid making mistakes along the way or did he want him to allow him to make his own mistakes and hopefully learn from them. The son opted to make his own mistakes in life.
The older black male then looked at me and said that was the biggest mistake he ever made. See...the older black male I was talking to was the son in the story.
Some people have to learn by doing and some people want to learn by doing. No matter how much you talk to them and try to advise them in order to minimize their mistakes.
Let that child know what the result is going to be. If they steal and get caught and go to jail, you won't be bailing them out. That you'll go down to the courthouse for the trial or whatever and tell them you'll see them when they get out. Or if they happen to get in trouble with the wrong people and those wrong people come after them...because of the path they chose to walk on their own without advice from you...that you will not sacrifice your or your "wife's" or their siblings wellbeing because they chose to walk that path.
So one thing you can do is to tell them what the result is going to be because they chose not to listen and heed the warnings.
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Albert
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| Posted: Sat Feb 22, 2025 12:28 pm Post subject: Re: How should non-white parents handle criminal cases? |
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| Edward Williams wrote: |
Sometimes you have to allow people to fail, offspring or otherwise.
An older black male once told me a story where this father was talking to his son. The father asked him if he wanted him to advise and tell him what to do or not to do in order to avoid making mistakes along the way or did he want him to allow him to make his own mistakes and hopefully learn from them. The son opted to make his own mistakes in life.
The older black male then looked at me and said that was the biggest mistake he ever made. See...the older black male I was talking to was the son in the story.
Some people have to learn by doing and some people want to learn by doing. No matter how much you talk to them and try to advise them in order to minimize their mistakes.
Let that child know what the result is going to be. If they steal and get caught and go to jail, you won't be bailing them out. That you'll go down to the courthouse for the trial or whatever and tell them you'll see them when they get out. Or if they happen to get in trouble with the wrong people and those wrong people come after them...because of the path they chose to walk on their own without advice from you...that you will not sacrifice your or your "wife's" or their siblings wellbeing because they chose to walk that path.
So one thing you can do is to tell them what the result is going to be because they chose not to listen and heed the warnings. |
Thank you so much for this. |
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